Tuesday, May 15, 2012

3 Snakes, A Pair of Panties, and a Punch Bowl.



Here's what I love: 3 snakes, a pair of panties, and a punch bowl.  These are the items that grace the bench in my entryway today.

Why?  Well, it’s simple.  I need to remember to return them to their rightful owners.


Interesting mix of objects, eh?

It’s not as exciting as it sounds.  The snakes are here because my oldest needed a fake snake for a book report she was presenting at school.  I put the word out on FaceBook that I was looking for a fake snake and before we knew it, we had snakes to choose from!  Now, I need to return said reptiles to their proper owners—to the friends who were happy to lend their toy slitherers to us.

The panties are a bit more disturbing, I agree.  Well, that is because little girls think that it’s just fine to lend underwear to one another.  My daughter had just finished swimming at a friend’s house—somehow, she had misplaced her underwear.  Her generous friend pulled out a clean pair from her drawer and had no problem lending them to my silly girl.  (Now that we’ve washed them, I will ask her friend’s mother if she’d like for her daughter to have them back.)  It was awfully nice of our sweet friend to quickly hand over undergarments, is it not?

The punch bowl made it’s way to my house after a baby shower I helped host recently.  It belonged to a neighbor friend who was unable to attend the shower, but was still willing to lend us her punch service set for ten.  So sweet!  The funny thing is that this particular friend has been in and out of my house—walking right by her own punch bowl—several times this week.  Neither of us has remembered to make sure she takes it with her.  Oh well.  She knows where I live.

I have helpful friends.  

FaceBook has made it possible to ask the entire world if we need something.  Most of us would loan out fake snakes and punch bowls (but maybe not underwear) to friends in need of such items.  Many of us would quickly respond if someone needs a cup of sugar, a booster seat, or advice.  Fewer spring into action when the request is for last-minute childcare, a ride to the airport, or help with a move. 

Why is that?  Why do we hesitate when the need is greater?  Probably because it costs us more—more of our own time and energy. 

I have to admit that I am guilty of hesitating. 

Jesus told me that if someone asks for my shirt, I am to offer my underwear—I mean coat!—as well.  And that if they ask me to walk with them a mile, I am to go with them two miles. 

Lately, that scripture is translating into giving my best to people even when I don’t feel like it.  Sometimes, “giving my best” includes prayer for a person who is in need.  Recently, I’ve been burdened for a friend, but when I sit down to pray, I sometimes get caught up in judgmental thoughts, hurt feelings, or confusion.  

Being consistently generous with my time, money, and resources is not easy.  Mustering up a heart willing to love someone who is frustrating me is next to impossible.

Then, Jesus reminds me:

You can’t muster up perfect love in your heart. 
You won’t consistently give to others as you should. 
But, I love perfectly and I gave all.



It’s the only way to give my best to those in need.
It’s the only way to love those who insist on being unlovable.

When I remember that—when I take a deep breath and intentionally let Jesus love through me, then I choke with sobs of profound, mysterious love for my struggling friend.  I pray for them for over an hour.


It’s kind to give to others.
It’s good to help those in need.
It’s important to love fully.

But, kindness, goodness and love are all evidence of His spirit in me.  

I cannot be
truly and selflessly
kind,
good, or
loving
in my own strength. 

I’ll hesitate way too often. 

Fortunately, the power that conquered death is now available to me—overcoming my hesitations one deep breath intentional moment at a time.

When I look to Him and see the requests of others through His eyes, He enables me to put people ahead of possessions.  

I gladly give sugar, rides to the airport, money for a cause, help with a move, snakes, punch bowls, and perhaps even panties.  

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