Friday, January 25, 2013

A Day in the Life of a Suburban Stay-at-Home Mom


 Here’s what I hate: A day in the life of a suburban stay-at-home mom.

Tuesday was a pretty average day for me.  I make my kids school lunches, I chat over breakfast with them and slurp my morning coffee.  After I drop them at school, I often head to the YMCA or go to the lake to get some exercise.  Sometimes though, (as was the case on Tuesday), I go to volunteer at the Siloam Family Health Clinic which is a non-profit health care clinic serving patients who lack insurance or who have difficulty accessing health services. 

You might think that I am bragging about my work with the uninsured, but actually, my work there is very easy.  We are usually helping clean out storage closets or writing prayer cards.  Since I am not medically trained, it’s not as if I am bandaging up refugees or something.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad I can serve the clinic in any way I can and I do think the jobs we do behind the scenes are helpful, but I don’t feel like it’s anything out of my comfort zone.

After my short 2-hour volunteer shift at the clinic, I drove through the bank to make a deposit.  Then, I was headed to the grocery store when I felt the sudden urge for Starbucks.  I felt I needed a little “pick-me-up.” It wasn’t until after the nice Barista at the drive-up window asked me if I had to work today that I realized how easy I actually have it. 

I mean, seriously, my kids are in school all day.  At least some stay-at-home moms have to wipe noses and bottoms of toddlers all day.  Me?  I run errands and do easy volunteer work and peck away on my computer. 

But after an easy morning of volunteering and going through the drive-thru at the bank, I need a pick-me-up!?  What have I actually done really?  I didn’t even get out of my car at the bank or the Starbucks.  If there was a drive-thru grocery store, I’d probably do that too.  And I don’t even have kids in my car!  I could easily hop out and hop back in.  It’s ridiculous I tell you.

I have friends both near and far that do actual hard work that would definitely warrant a “pick-me-up” on any given day.  Friends with multiple children and broken shoulders, who are giving their lives away to the PTA.  Friends learning new languages as they minister to people in foreign countries.  Friends trooping around the globe taking photos to raise money to helpthe poorest of the poor.  Friends with paying jobs who still make dinner for their families.  My own husband gets very little sleep and is saving kid’s lives for Pete’s sake! 

On Tuesday, I had a realization that the world keeps telling me I deserve a rest or a coffee or a cupcake or a vacation or a manicure.  And after two simple errands on Tuesday, I was ready to buy into that message.  But, in reality, I don’t deserve any of these little perks.  

Don’t get me wrong, I love a manicure from time to time or a cupcake (or a cupcake AND a manicure).  But, I think I should be abundantly grateful any time I get to indulge in one of these little diversions. 

Grateful rather than entitled—grateful for this easy season of life and open to the Lord’s guidance on how to serve Him in all this abundance.  One way I know for sure.  I can stop thinking about what I can get out of the day and start thinking about what I can give.  

We are called to be salty and shiny.  I will focus on making sure my interactions with others are seasoned with love rather than complaints about my day.  I will pray that Jesus’ light will pour out of me to illuminate and warm the lives of others. 

The great thing about these two “tasks” is that they are easy when done in His strength.

If you are in a season of difficulty—diapering bottoms, fighting illness, saving lives, giving tirelessly to the poor, sharing the gospel in a country not your own, then please, by all means, take a rest.  Grab a coffee or a cupcake.  Put your feet up from time to time. 

But, if the Lord has shown you that your life is actually quite easy right now, then it might be time to ignore the world’s whispers of entitlement (which only leads to complaining about stupid stuff like customer service or internet speed).



Let’s open our eyes and hands and hearts to being willing to give a little more of ourselves before we go looking for a pick-me-up we think we deserve.  Because, honestly, we already have access to the One who offers way more joy and power than a cup of coffee! 
 

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